People are just so programmed. Sometimes it seems to me that they’re all scrurrying around like rodents, rather than like sentient human beings. They don’t think, almost as though they are not capable of it.
You’ve got to allow yourself to think outside the box. The answers are never inside. Never.
And though I often make fun at guys who are boneheaded or act like they are not playing with a full deck because of their maleness, men do not have the market cornered on this trait.
A couple of weeks ago I read a little article that is still going through my mind. I no longer have the link, thanks to Firefox emptying out my “Read Later” folder when I upgraded. (Thanks, Firefox. NOT.) But it was just one of those “relationships” articles based on interviews with a few couples which were then written up in an attempt to make it sound like the writer had discovered a universal truth.
I seem to recall that the issue is that men get less sex when they do less housework and more when they do more. Since women who spend all their time around the house doing housework tend to build up resentment toward the hubby, who is waiting for her to finish her chores so he can get it on with her, it only makes sense that guys who do more housework get more sex who are neither resentful nor falling-asleep tired.
So far so good. But the example they gave was of a woman with a high-powered highly paid job who got upset every time her husband walked past the sinkful of dirty dishes without doing them. She was so upset that she switched to paper plates and disposable utensils, which cut into the dirty dishes, but did nothing to quell her resentment. She really needed him to do this, deep down inside, and she saw no clash with the fact that he was working 15-1/2 hour days.
Like, excuse me? If you want to have a life and not have to do menial chores all the time, and you’ve got the money, pay somebody else to do it. Come home every day to dinner on the table and a maid who doesn’t go home until after all the dishes are put away and the counters cleaned.
Let go of the resentment. It’s not about men vs. women. Stop being such a control freak, sit down, and enjoy life.
Gotta think out of the box. That’s where the answer is.
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