Not too close, but I found it a fun read. Walk on the wild side and maybe right off the edge.

Given the seeming insurmountable problems and crises such as, wars and more wars, environmental calamities and climate change, gross and growing income and wealth disparities, creeping secular and sectarian authoritarianism, nuclear and biologic weapons proliferation and the host of other problems that accompanies humanities death march to Armageddon, there appears to me to be a root cause and a simple solution to the conundrum we find ourselves in.

The cause of our current predicament is that we have too many men in the world today and the solution is to have far fewer of them.

* Trenz Pruca’s diary :: ::
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Think about it for a moment. Is there any evolutionary purpose served today, outside of transporting and contributing half of the DNA strand to new individuals, of having hanging around a great number of individuals whose sole evolutionary function is to protect the cave from predators (mostly other men) and collecting food while the female of the species is birthing and raising the next generation?

Given that recent human evolution is social and technological, except for the DNA transport function (and even that is presently questionable ) the other functions of the male are mostly well taken care of today (with the possible exception of protection from men themselves).

There are about six or seven billion humans abroad in the world today, about three to three and a half billion are men. That is far too many just to provide for survival of the species and actually may be inimical to that survival. I would guess that we need at most only about one percent of that number, if that much, for species success and genetic diversity.

In a science fiction series the writer cj cherryh posited a community run entirely by women, with the few men there were, like the male lions in a pride, kept in splendid isolation as being to too dangerous and insane to be let loose on the rest of society. This culture worked quite well, with a lot of co-operation among all concerned.

Other writers, mostly men. imagining similar female dominated societies, often pictured them as being ripped apart over conflicts for the few remaining men. (Why do male writers so often picture women as men in dresses with deficient upper body strength? Women are not lesser men.)

Come now, does anyone really believe that woman as a whole would take up arms against one another over a man. Imagine if the “face that launched a thousand ships” were that of Brad Pitt instead of Helen of Troy would the women of Greece take to their boats? I for one find no reason to believe they would be that stupid, after all each of the poor evolutionary irrelevant male creatures provides enough genetic material for hundreds if not thousands of progeny.

Imagine, in such a world the hydrocarbon emission problem would virtually disappear. The sexual sublimation of adolescent boys and young men with cars would be replaced with transportation only needs. Would a woman really need to drill a hole in the ocean a mile below the surface? Not even the metaphor succeeds.

Population pressure will recede. No one can rationally maintain that it is solely women’s thirst for more and more children that lies at the root cause of the population explosion.

And what about meat? The reduction in the consumption of Big Macs, BBQ ribs and steak would plummet, freeing the world environment from the ravages of the inefficient production of meat protein. The reduction of methane production alone from fewer cows as well as men can only be interpreted as environmentally and aesthetically beneficial.

Yes, some will suffer like beer distillers and owners of sports teams and perhaps the porn and sex industries and the like but I am sure that is a small price to pay for the enormity of the benefits.

Does anyone believe that woman in general have wet dreams at night about the glories of social and economic inequality? Would they really have interpreted Darwin’s theories as survival of the fittest? (I suspect Prince Kropotkin rather that Spengler would have been more appealing). Would modern economic theory be more or less Keynesian if it were written by women for women? (We cannot lose sight of the fact that traditional economic theory was for the most part written by men for men)

Think about wars, invented by men to keep down the competition for sexual access and to acquire resources from those who actually produced them (usually woman). Would women really find a need to dress up in uncomfortable military costumes only to mess them up killing one another to prove their sexual attractiveness? They are not so dumb. Don’t you think that even the crazies among the female sex, would resist sending out other women to fight and kill or be killed for a few more acres of land or another barrel of oil or for that matter because we do not like their opponents skin color or the face of their god?

What about the creeping theocratic lunacy afflicting the world today? Imagine say the meeting at a street crossing in old Jerusalem among a group of burka covered muslim woman, a few babushka clad Israeli immigrant woman from the pale and a covey of Irish nuns. Does anyone really see them grabbing knives and guns and killing one another? Insults shouted, maybe a little pushing and shoving, but killing no, and it would soon be over because they all have more important things to do than shout at each other on a street corner.

What about gay men? Would not this society be unfair to them? Given the fact that gay men are still men and historically not above the testicular induced madness to kill one another for no good reason (e.g. Alexander), I have come to the conclusion that we should adopt the system practiced by the american indian as a good solution. That would have the gay men willing to do so going off and living as women in every way feasible. That would also have the practical advantage of immediately reducing the number of the male hormonal addled by ten or fifteen percent. Then the rest of us, straight and gay alike. can go off and live in splendid isolation and save the rest of the world from the plague of our testosterone.

Can anyone out there in the blog-o-sphere think of one crises afflicting the world today that cannot be better handled by women in a world with far fewer men?

Link to story, by Trenz Pruca

When I first got into the biz, I took a yahoo ID to go with my first phone sex persona. Not realizing that your real name is permanently attached to your yahoo ID and cannot be changed for such silly reasons as your real name changing or stalkers trying to hunt you down and kill you, I ended up with my real name out there for about a year.

Mostly my chatters were honest. But when I found out what had happened, I asked them, and they were like, “I thought you knew.” Really helpful.

Last year I was looking on yahoo for somebody whose ID I had lost. I signed up for yahoo personals to see if he was there, by mistake using the same ID that I had the issue with before. Before making a profile, I started a new yahoo personals account with a more anonymous ID of mine. But the other personals account lives on, sending me occasional spam in an attempt to get me to fill out a profile and put up lots of identifying photos in it, which are, of course, the only photos a woman is permitted to put. Men can put pictures of their house or car, a woman’s photos have to show her clearly so that stalkers who read her city and state can track her down easily. Fun, fun, fun.

Yahoo also wants me to pay some ungodly amount of money so I can correspond with guys whose profiles I find attractive. It’s a moneymaking venture for them, but in order to get people to sign up they have to prevent people who have not paid for premium accounts from contacting others. It’s supposed to give you an incentive. You’re also not permitted to discuss the rules in your profile, so people who have paid accounts may not realize that they need to send you their contact info in an email, because you are only allowed to send them one one-line “icebreaker”, selected from a very slim and uninformative list.

So today I found this article in that rarely-checked inbox, written by a guy who is a “dating guru”, with lots of good advice for both men and women, but we’ll get to that later. Or should I say, “good advice”.

Hopefully you can read this. I had to shrink it, otherwise it would have had to end up on an html page of its own. Unfortunately, it’s a members site, so the link won’t work for you. Thus, the screenshot.

Mind you, the email link to the article was “14 Mistakes to Avoid”, not “14 Fatal Online Dating Errors That Single Women Make”. Gee, I thought there was only one fatal online dating error possible, which involved getting killed by somebody you gave too much personal information to…

Let’s cut through the crap and I will rewrite the list, distilling it down to its essence, just in case it is not perfectly clear.

1. Stop posting four different photos from four different stages in your life.
Don’t make guys think. They want to know exactly how you look right now. They want your pictures up to date, and they want you to be hot. That’s the only thing that matters. Don’t take up valuable space on the server if you are not.

2. Don’t list your dislikes about Internet dating in bold, capital letters at the beginning of your profile.

In face, keep it to yourself, too. Tell guys how much you love internet dating. If you don’t, what’s wrong with you? It’s great!

3. List your exact body type.
Guys really need to know that. Don’t waste a guy’s time trying to get to know him. The only thing he needs to know is your body type.

4. List your real age.
Really, why start on a lie? Guys don’t want you to say you’re young, they don’t want you to look young, you have to BE young. Get with it.

5. I’m really glad you had a great time on your vacation, but you don’t need to post 10 photos of your trip to Italy WITHOUT you in them.
Well actually, don’t post any vacation pics of yourself at all, unless they show you in a bikini AND you are really hot. Guys aren’t interested in women who like vacations. Women who like vacations like to be taken along, and that would crimp a guy’s style and cost him some serious bucks.

6. Keep your profile short and to the point.
The text space is just there to make you think that guys are considering you for something other than the hotness of your pictures. They’re not, and the text gets in the way of their enjoyment of your photos when they’re stroking their cocks.

7. Don’t be so self-absorbed.
It’s not about you. It’s about me, and about what I can get you to do for me.

8. Don’t list your financial desires like you’re posting a want ad.
It is not reasonable to expect a guy to have reached certain material goals, like owning a car, having a job, or living someplace other than his parents’ basement. But you should be sure to tell him exactly how much money you make. No guy wants a woman who makes so little money she is going to be a parasite.

9. No baby talk!
None. Whatever. Guys find that a turnoff, as though you’re expecting something to develop out of the relationship that will be more serious than a hookup or two. If you have kids? Lie. He doesn’t want to know.

11. Stop sending winks.
Guys aren’t interested in women who aren’t willing to pay up front to get their contact info. Shell out the $50 a year. I’m worth it.

12. If you write to a man and he doesn’t write you back, don’t write a nasty follow-up email and ask him why he didn’t write you back.
He probably read what you wrote and realized you were going to expect him to put together thoughts into complete sentences. Don’t be so demanding.

13. We know you’re looking at us, because we see that you’ve viewed our profile every day.
You know how hot we are. We could have any woman we wanted. Better start chasing us if you want anything.

14. If a guy who you’re interested in writes to you, stop playing games and write him back right away.
If he thinks you’re hot enough to write to you, don’t make him wait. He’s not going to read what you wrote. Just send him some more of those hot pictures, the nude ones this time.

I have found when online dating that if you’re honest about who you are, and you get back to people immediately, you’ll get the date faster, get right to sex and skip all the games. Now go change that profile! I want to see some hot photos now!

I clicked through a link to his blog, looking for more “fatal mistakes” that were supposed to be there. I didn’t find the post, but I did land on one about why guys shouldn’t feel guilty about using women for sex while pretending they are interested in a relationship. I found an interesting comment there:

AmericanGothic Says:
November 17th, 2008 at 9:22 pm

Well, David, I am not trying to be the party pooper, but your posts/articles usually are tinged with a “male” testosterone driven logic instead of reflecting how things really are from both male and female prespectives. They are gered twords making men feel “empowered”, but by unrealistic and improper means.

Naturally, I am a female, and I don’t buy this BS you wrote above. Enjoy the experience? Women of today are not very good at holding back sex because they think that’s how they will get love. After all, everyone is doing it.

They feel somehow that if they hold back they will lose the guy. They make it too easy. Although we should (not the best word) enjoy EVERY present moment and experience, (not just sex) it should never be irresponsibly and at the cost of someone else’s emotional investment.

If any man feels guilty ’cause it’s just for the sex, good for him, he probably has a conscience. Listen to it, indeed. because being there just for the sex is called “using”. Talk about users and takers… “So stop with this ego.” (Haha, your conscience is NOT your ego, you got it backwords.) “Stop with the ludicrous way of thinking.” (That’s called conscience.) “Stop worrying so much about the other person.” (Yeah, be narcissistic and selfish.)” “Start enjoying the experience of another person. Start enjoying the gift that the other person is giving you.”

Haha! that must have been cathartic. Is there ANY man who does not enjoy that experience??? (sex) But any man I would go to bed with would have to earn the experience. I don’t give away anything without getting back the same. That’s fair. the “getting to know” and “experiencing” people should be done not just in bed, but way before you hit the sheets. Unless, of course, you are just playing the field, in which case you should have the guts to say so from the beginning. See how far that would get you. You don’t seem to know much about women yet, so here’s a hint: we are usually after love, and we might give sex to get it. Yes, that is reality.

Have you heard the saying “women give sex to get love, and men give love to get sex”? If women would stop being afraid of being rejected for their honesty, that is what you would hear them say. (Even if we enjoy sex just as much, we attach different meaning to it!!!) Every man is a potential prince charming to us. It’s biology. blame the big bang. (Haha, big bang!) We are wired differently.

Any woman who plays like a man with you, will play like a man with everyone else. You’re not special.

Sorry if that is harsh, but that is reality. Do you have ANY idea what we girls talk about in the restroom? No, it’s not “let’s all have lesbian sex!”, It’s about how men don’t give back what we need.

I hear all my girlfriends complaining about how great the sex is, but you don’t call, forget their birthday, your ex still calls you, and you won’t commit. Then they cry.

David, it’s really too bad you leave out the fact that we are all multi-layered, multi-faceted, multi-dimentional beings and that sex is the icing on the cake. There are other important things and give and take can be rather a complex concept if not properly understood. “I’m just telling you to be a little bit more upfront and to stop assuming that the other person is falling in love with you. You’ll know it when someone is falling in love with you. You’ll feel it in your soul, in your heart, and in every inch of your body. You’ll feel it in every conversation you have together.”

What BS. This is so untrue, and to make it simple, men don’t have the most acute intuition/perception, especially not horny guys. C’mon! you don’t even like the sound of the word “feelings”. We live in a society, in this age, where relationships have become comodities, (for free sex) and connections are too superficial to be meaningful. You keep going around like that and very few will find real meaning and fullfillment, no matter how you will try to convince yourselves.

I am talking to men and women. David, live a few more years, and you will understand. You’re the nation’s leading personal coach? No wonder so many people are miserable in love. (I am not blaming you, because you are just a product of the environment as well.) Why does a man “need” help knowing how to “pick up” women? What men “need” is self-respect and self-esteem and knowing when not to fall for quick scams.

If you practice David’s tips, you *might* “pick up” more women, but guys, quantity is NOT quality. Although if you are starved, you might not care. If any of you guys is “plagued” by doubts with regards to being fair to your girlfriends, why don’t you fess up about your intentions and have a *talk* about your “feelings” with your girl. be honest. Have the guts to tell her what you really want. Women are very understanding and accomodating. That would be fair and real.

And finally, David, for your information, I specialize in LONG term relationships. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 yrs, and I won’t marry him because I don’t want to. (I am waiting for you. haha) David, in the meantime, careful with that “advice”.

The next commenter called her a “cunt”. I didn’t know John McCain had figured out how to use the internets…

Creatures driven by their hormones and their instincts, the males merely follow their urges as they overcome insurmountable odds, helpless pawns of Mother Nature.
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You’ve got to allow yourself to think outside the box. The answers are never inside. Never.

And though I often make fun at guys who are boneheaded or act like they are not playing with a full deck because of their maleness, men do not have the market cornered on this trait.

A couple of weeks ago I read a little article that is still going through my mind. I no longer have the link, thanks to Firefox emptying out my “Read Later” folder when I upgraded. (Thanks, Firefox. NOT.) But it was just one of those “relationships” articles based on interviews with a few couples which were then written up in an attempt to make it sound like the writer had discovered a universal truth.

I seem to recall that the issue is that men get less sex when they do less housework and more when they do more. Since women who spend all their time around the house doing housework tend to build up resentment toward the hubby, who is waiting for her to finish her chores so he can get it on with her, it only makes sense that guys who do more housework get more sex who are neither resentful nor falling-asleep tired.

So far so good. But the example they gave was of a woman with a high-powered highly paid job who got upset every time her husband walked past the sinkful of dirty dishes without doing them. She was so upset that she switched to paper plates and disposable utensils, which cut into the dirty dishes, but did nothing to quell her resentment. She really needed him to do this, deep down inside, and she saw no clash with the fact that he was working 15-1/2 hour days.

Like, excuse me? If you want to have a life and not have to do menial chores all the time, and you’ve got the money, pay somebody else to do it. Come home every day to dinner on the table and a maid who doesn’t go home until after all the dishes are put away and the counters cleaned.

Let go of the resentment. It’s not about men vs. women. Stop being such a control freak, sit down, and enjoy life.

Gotta think out of the box. That’s where the answer is.